It's all about compromise.
Moving into a new home with your SO is one of the biggest milestones in a relationship. And like any step forward, there's a learning curve that comes along with it—it requires compromise, compassion, and a willingness for one person to just suck it up and do the dishes again (even when it's not their turn). After all, even if you're already used to spending more nights together than apart, there's a big difference between frequent sleepovers and sharing a space 24/7.
The good news? Being aware of what's ahead—and coming up with a plan—can help make the transition as smooth (and exciting!) as possible. Here are 7 things couples learn when they move into a new home together.
Laundry day can be tough when there's two of you—especially when your routines match up (designating Sunday as laundry day is all well and good until you need to fight over whose clothes go in first).
If flexing your days and times won't do, invest in a mega capacity washer-dryer duo that gets each cycle done in less time (like LG's and ). And if you really want to make things easier on you both, complete your laundry room with an , which allows you to do two loads at once (in separate compartments, so each load can have completely different care instructions).
Chances are, you'll each have chores you gravitate toward—and ones you can't stand. When one person isn't pulling their weight with taking out the trash or cleaning the bathroom, it's easy for bitterness to build up.
To keep the household running happily, divide and conquer. Maybe your partner will never unload the dishwasher without being asked, but they'll gladly clean up after dinner. If you don't mind dishwasher duty, take that on as one of your "things"—and relax with a glass of wine while they're scrubbing away later on.
Sharing closet space takes some serious compromise (especially if you can't imagine giving up the shelves you'd normally use for shoes). Figure out what you each need in terms of drawer space, hanging space, and shelf space, and split it up accordingly—work within your own designated areas and adjust (together) as you go.
You can also add clothing storage space outside the closet with a dresser or standing wardrobe. And to avoid any frantic mornings with a wrinkled dress or dress shirt, invest in an to refresh your clothes in less than thirty minutes.
Let's be honest: There's always one person who's going to be more of a clean freak than the other. When your definitions of "clean" are different, keeping things perfectly neat and tidy all the time just isn't going to happen.
This is where you've got to meet in the middle: While one person's got to cut back on their most bothersome messy habits (like leaving dirty laundry around) the other has to let go of the little things. Repeat after us: Pick your battles.
Little preferences, like your bedroom temperature and the bedroom lighting, can take some adjustment (literally). Consider an easy-to-install smart lighting system like to create custom lighting settings together that suit you both.
You can also schedule different lighting for different times, so there's no arguing over who gets up to turn the light off when it's time for bed. (As for that bedroom temperature—well, that's a whole other story.)
When you're both getting ready to start your days at the same time, one person's long showers can make you feel less like a couple and more like siblings. Avoid clashing over shower time by working out your schedules ahead of time. The more time you spend in cohabitation bliss, the easier it will be to find your groove together.
Even the closest couples need a little "me time" for themselves once in a while. And chances are, there's a particular spot or activity you'll each rely on to get it in your new home—maybe one person takes a bath while the other digs into a novel in their go-to nook.
Notice and respect these spaces, and make them feel like your own mini retreats with cozy, personal design details.